Today I wanted to take a break from all the education heavy material (although I think my last 2 emails were some of the most popular to date!) and go back to what I like to call good old-fashioned medicine.
I’ve been talking to quite a few patients lately who are going through a rough time. It’s like there’s something in the air or collective-consciousness.
And I’ve noticed a few themes that I can relate to myself.
Based on personal experience and speaking with patients, I wish we would all check in with each other more often.
How often do we ask how someone is doing and each exchange auto-pilot responses?
The difference is palpable when someone looks you in the eye and really asks to know how you are doing.
Do you do this for your people? Do you have people trying to hold that space for you?
So many of us are busy, with a lot going on in our brains. I think we need to carve out more time to slow down, reflect, and connect with our people to truly check in with ourselves and them.
So many people suffer in silence, not knowing how to reach out. That’s because it takes practice to be vulnerable and we don’t always feel like we have people who can be a safe space for us to truly open up.
I don’t have all the answers. I wish I did. I do know there are a lot of people craving connection and a space to share what’s truly going on with them.
And if that is you, you’re not alone.
Feeling this way this week reminds me of one of my motivations behind launching the Wild Collective. The women’s health curriculum is 🔥🔥 but the connection piece is priceless once you experience it.
This collective is just a group of women that have the same life difficulties as the rest of us. No judgments. No questions. It really summed up what Wild Collective is really about: Women sharing their life difficulties and triumphs. Women learning new things and sharing personal stories about their bodies, their physical and mental health, and their journeys. I had never met any of the women before, but sharing on zoom made me feel a connection to these womenLaurie
Watching women open up more and more over the 10 month experience was my favorite part of the Collective. Being vulnerable is a skill, it’s courage in action.
I love this quote by Brene Brown (a researcher who studies courage, vulnerability, shame and empathy):
“The definition of vulnerability is uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. But vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our most accurate measure of courage. When the barrier is our belief about vulnerability, the question becomes: ‘Are we willing to show up and be seen when we can’t control the outcome?’ When the barrier to vulnerability is about safety, the question becomes: ‘Are we willing to create courageous spaces so we can be fully seen?”
If you’ve never watched Brene’s OG Ted Talk on vulnerability, it’s 1000% worth a listen. Connection is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives (neurobiologically).
And you know what unravels connection? Shame. Brene explains that at the root of shame is the fear of disconnection.
Go watch the TED talk – it’s worth your time, but in the meantime here are the Cole’s notes:
So this week, I challenge you to let yourself be seen (deeply seen). You are enough. We are all worthy of love and belonging.
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- Dr. Willow
I help women achieve optimal digestive and hormonal wellness through a root cause, individualized approach to medicine that utilizes functional lab testing, diet and lifestyle modification, nutritional and herbal medicine, and acupuncture to re-establish lasting health.
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